Jay Alvarrez, Alexis Ren…and Relationship Goals?

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Unless you’ve been living under a rock lately, like I have :) …you probably know who Jay Alvarrez and Alexis Ren are…if you don’t, let me fill you in real quick…

Jay Alvarrez (20 yrs) and Alexis Ren (19 yrs) are an instagram couple who are both models and who currently have up to 10 million followers combined on their individual and couple instagram accounts. Their popularity is due to the couple sharing VERY intimate images of their relationship and lifestyle on instagram…young people around the world look up to them as an example of what a “great” relationship/ “LOVE” should look like aka “Relationship Goals”…

Cosmopolitan online did an interview with them back in June. I wanted to share a little snippet of the interview, because it has been stuck on my mind for the past few days…I bolded the parts that inspired me to write this post….

On whether or not they’ll get married…

Jay: Honestly, our, our goals are financial right now. We’re trying to buy a house in Hawaii, and I want to get a house on the beach.

Alexis: That’s taking the next step for us, is having a home with each other.

Jay: We’re very different in that way. At this point in my life, “I don’t believe in marriage.” Maybe I will in the future, but “I think marriage comes from a lot of insecurity. You worry about that person being with anyone but you and you need to lock them down.”

Alexis: We’re in this new generation where “we don’t need a piece of paper to represent how much we love each other.”

Jay: Yeah. “This is the new revolution. Marriage is making less and less sense now than ever. If love can outshine a marriage,” then our next step is just doing bigger and better things together, and learning more about each other and our strengths together.

In the article it was mentioned that Jay (20yrs) and Alvarez (19yrs) both lost their mothers and their fathers are not actively present in their lives because they are “Doing their own thing….”

A few days ago cosmopolitan posted an article stating the couple may have broken up recently…

DISCLAIMER:

Before I share my thoughts on this whole thing, I just want to say that I am not judging them or anyone else for this matter who shares their views…

I was once their age, believed some of the same things and made some mistakes…

I’m sharing my thoughts in hopes this will bless someone else because I wish I knew some of these things when I was younger.

I am a Christian and therefore my views support God’s PURPOSE for Marriage and Sex….so here we go :)

Just like many young girls, growing up the only standard and examples of what a relationship, dating and marriage looked like were from the media…music videos, movies, Television Shows, magazines, Novels e.t.c.

I had such a warped view of what one should look for in a lifelong marriage partner or what should and shouldn’t be acceptable in a relationship. What TRUE LOVE is, The real purpose of Marriage and Sex…e.t.c

As young girls most of us were told Sex outside of marriage is wrong…because of the consequences…unwanted pregnancies, STD’s, AIDS, labels, reputation etc

Speaking for myself the biblical reasons were never explained other than GOD hates fornication and you will go to hell…

Times have changed quite a bit since I was a teenager/young adult, today Sex has become pervasive…it’s hard to listen to music, watch TV, browse the internet or walk down the street without seeing images that glorify LUST, that glorify relationships filled with drama, that glorify men having multiple partners, that glorify cheating, that glorify side chicks, that glorify women “advertising their body assets.”, that glorify dead end relationships that lead to nowhere…all in the name of YOLO…life’s too short and You Only Live Once…

Most people especially young people don’t have the guidance or positive influence to guide them the right way so they just feed on the garbage that’s been shoved down their throats until it leads to serious consequences in their lives…

it has become normalized within our society to the point where people don’t think that pure wholesome Godly relationships/marriages actually exist and so they settle for the garbage… it’s as if the World’s way IS the only way…

1 Corinthians 6 : 19 – 20 (NIV)

19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

Marriage (Holy Matrimony) is a Sacred Institution and the MOST IMPORTANT institution created by God, it symbolizes Christ’s love for the Church and the church’s submission to the Lord. It is a Covenant/Vow and a commitment between a man and woman before God.

Ephesians 5 : 25 – 31 (NIV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

If a man doesn’t love, respect, honor and fear GOD..if he doesn’t have the love of God within him and doesn’t love himself he has no ability to love a woman/a wife, for he doesn’t even love himself …he abuses himself/his own body through sin of the flesh such as alcohol, drugs, sex, and idolatry etc.

If a man doesn’t even understand God’s Blueprint for Love & Marriage…. “Christ’s love for the church and how Christ gave himself up for the church to make her holy…” How can he SACRIFICE, make that type of commitment and demonstrate that type of love to a woman/ a wife?

For this reason, the devil today is fiercely attacking God’s most sacred institution i.e Marriage and feeding us LIES as to what marriage really means…and giving us his version of Sex and marriage, making a MOCKERY out of God’s Sacred Institution.

As women our role is to have discernment… are we willing to trust a blind man to lead us? Submitting and entrusting our life/heart, body and future children/generations to a man who is not led by God?

Psalm 127:1

Unless the Lord builds the house,
    the builders labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
    the guards stand watch in vain.

How can you be at peace knowing that a blind man is leading you… amidst the warfare and attacks made by Satan and his fallen angels?

Matthew 15 : 14

14 Leave them; they are blind guides. If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”

Satan knows the role of men and their significance to the family and generations to come, because marriage is an important assignment from God. This is why men are viciously attacked.

Satan also knows the value and role a virtuous woman can play as this man’s rib in his life and that is why the attack on a woman’s destiny, self-esteem, fruits and gifts is so great.

Genesis 2 : 19 – 24

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky.He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found.

21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

If a man does not pursue God in his life and is not following God’s plan for his life he shouldn’t be pursuing a woman…

If a man decides to go out of God’s plan and decides to follow the worldly rules for dating he shall not expect sex from a woman….if he does…he is a THIEF…

He is STEALING from a woman that which is the most precious to her, that which God has set aside for her husband. And that should only be shared with her husband, the man she was created and adapted uniquely for by God.

When a man pursues a woman for the sole purpose of sex, it shows that he is solely satisfying his sexual needs and lustful desires and not honoring God and his daughters.

If he does receive sex he shall also be ready to bear the consequences and responsibilities that come with the “shame” and sinful nature of sex outside Marriage.

Hebrews 13 : 4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

 

Sex was created by God to be enjoyed WITHIN a marriage put together by God to further his kingdom and bearing fruit of children.

Genesis 9: 7

7 “As for you, be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth and increase upon it.”

 

If a man does not want marriage or a family he shall not engage in sex for he is going against God’s wishes and desires for MAN. God saw that it was not suitable for man to be alone in this world and therefore he should have a partner, a helpmeet made suitable for him…note: A helpmeet..meaning ONE woman not multiple helpmeets…many women!!!

Genesis 2 :18 (NIV)

18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

But due to the sinful nature of  man, life is tough for man… for God cursed the soil…

Genesis 3 : 17 (NIV)

17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’

“Cursed is the ground because of you;
    through painful toil you will eat food from it
    all the days of your life.

And Satan understands this, and so he tempts men with Money, Power, Sex and the things of this world that are fleeting…

Proverbs 23 : 4 – 5

Do not wear yourself out to get rich;
    do not trust your own cleverness.
Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone,
    for they will surely sprout wings
    and fly off to the sky like an eagle

A real man understands that he can NOT toil the ground alone…he needs to submit himself before God for strength and wisdom. If a man is not committed and submitted to GOD, his own creator?!?! how can he commit to a woman/ a wife and the family?

“The greatest measure of a man’s character is the relationship he has with God his creator.”

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In today’s world everyone is trying to be the masters of their own lives, instead of surrendering to GOD….

…and because of this Satan is having a field day…no wonder families are broken, divorces are at an all time high and then we go around saying SEE this is why Love doesn’t exist, marriages don’t work…we end up treating the disease, with what caused it in the first place…instead of looking at the real reasons…the lack of proper Godly examples and guidance in most people’s lives.

 2 Corinthians 4 : 4

The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.

Happy Sunday & Be Blessed

XOXO Dee

 

 

 

 



Hey Dee, where’ve you been? and what about the MHM?

Hey loves,

It’s me…Dee LOL I know I haven’t been around here for a while. Today I decided to finally log in here and write a quick post explaining a few things for all those who may be wondering…

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I’m still around :) I’m in some type of a transitional phase…when I entered this phase I really thought it would take a few months and I’d be able to get things somewhat normal… or at least as normal as can be….and under control… so I toughed it out and pushed through and kept going…but somewhere in the midst of it I realized…

I needed to LET GO of the reigns of CONTROL…be QUIET…be STILL…and work out some things…I don’t know how long I’ll be in this phase but I know one thing is for sure…

SURRENDERING was the best thing I’ve done so far…Surrendering and LETTING GOD take CONTROL of EVERYTHING…because of this I’ve been able to find a wonderful sense of INNER PEACE in the midst of CHAOS…and FAITH in GOD.

…being able to rebuild my relationship with the LORD has just been a wonderful journey that I REJOICE in and am truly GREATFUL for….

Proverbs 3 : 5 -6

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

That being said…all this talk will probably seem cryptic to most of you….so let’s get to the question that I get the most…coz enquiring minds want to know…what about the MHM?

Well, I got to a point where I started to really, really neglect my hair…for a few reasons…one being I really did not feel like doing my hair…AT ALL!!! because of the neglect my hair obviously suffered…when it did I just ignored it because I didn’t feel like dealing with it…ultimately I felt like chopping off my hair would give me the sense of freedom I needed…minimum maintenance…and it would fit in better with the change in lifestyle…and the change I needed…and a new start…

but I had one problem… I didn’t really feel like wearing my hair in a fade/big chop either…but that didn’t prevent me from reaching out for my shears and cutting it all off one night…next morning I went out and bought a wig…so that’s what I’ve been rocking ever since…

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I’m enjoying the best of both worlds, minimum maintenance and the luxury that comes with it…I get to focus on other areas in my life…not that hair was overtaking my life…but I needed a break from it all… I also realized one thing about myself through this whole experience…that I get bored with my hair very easily…especially when it get’s to a certain length…you know that awkward length….and one thing that is important to me is the ability to be versatile with my hair…

So for those who are wondering, I’m currently not doing the MHM…So what is my current plan/goals/regimen/products for my hair? ….Ummm NONE LOL…I just do what I feel like doing and since my hair is still in the big chop phase it really doesn’t matter…

If you sent me an email or comments on any of my online platforms and I have not responded to you I am truly sorry, I just get so many questions and it is overwhelming for me to answer each and everyone of your questions and concerns.

Unfortunately at this moment in time, with the time and resources I have it’s really hard for me to answer each and everyone of your questions…

so I have reached out to these ladies and they have agreed to help out as much as they can…

TafaraMav

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I have featured her here on the blog before, you can check out her feature here. She is a natural from South Africa and she currently does MHM Makeovers. You can reach her via her Facebook page MaxHydrationMethodSA or her personal instagram @tafaramav

DubaiDee

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Im sure most of you are familiar with her she was also featured here on the blog, you can check out her post here…she is currently not doing the original MHM but is doing a modified version of it and is only going to offer help and advice on this modified version so if you’re open you can reach her through her blog dubaidee4c.blogspot.com and instagram @dubaidee4c

Lastly ProtectivePrincess is no longer doing the regimen, and I doubt that she’ll be able to answer your questions but she has recently done an extensive video explaining her personal thoughts and sharing her personal experience with the MHM and she answered a lot of the common questions…so I wanted to share it below

I know when you start MHM for the first time it feels confusing and most of you get lost in the midst of all the information out there…but most of the questions have really already been answered and are available online, most questions encountered are really repeat questions that someone else has already asked and the answer can be found if you have the patience to dig for it…I have lots of posts here on the blog, on my YouTube Channel, you can also visit the official MHM site, and any of the ladies who did or are doing the regimen plus the black hair forum on the The Maximum Hydration Method thread…

Thank you all for your support and as always stay blessed,

XOXO

Dee



Beauty Haul

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Last month I got a few new beauty products from Sephora and H&M but I never got a chance to share here on the blog. I decided to finally get around doing this…

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Kat Von D recently launched their line here in Sweden at Sephora so I decided to get the Kat Von D Eye Contour Palette The eyeshadows are matte and they come in four quads of neutral, cool and warm shades.

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I’ve been practicing quite a lot using tutorials on YouTube and I’m really proud of this look I created.

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I think it turned out pretty good…I just need to keep at it…

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I also got the Sephora Lip Cream in Always Red and the Isadora Perfect Lip Liner in Prime Red.

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This combo has been my go to favorite and I have been wearing it a lot whenever I want a red lip.

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I’ve also been trying to find the “perfect” mascara for my short almost non-existent lashes. So I got a sample size of the Two faced better than sex mascara and the Maybelline Sensational Mascara

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I ran out of my regular makeup remover so I decided to pick up the Caudalie Micellar Water which I have been loving a lot!!! It does a good job of removing makeup, acting like a first cleanse and it’s not drying.

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I needed a lighter brighter nail polish for the spring so I got this pretty ligh pink Essie Nail color in Mademoiselle

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While I was waiting to check out I saw this gel hand sanitizer and decided to pick it up so I can have it handy in my purse whenever I feel the need to sanitize my hands.

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I love the real techniques bold metals collections brushes they are so pretty, so I decided to add the arched powder brush to my collection and now I have two brushes from this collection.

“Don’t call it a DREAM call it a Plan.”
- Unkown



Prom and Bridesmaid dresses with Sherry London

Spring is here and “love is in the air”, Wedding and Prom Season is finally upon us. Choosing the perfect dress for such a special occasion is exciting but can also be stressful. Of course you want to look as PERFECT as you can be without breaking the bank.

In today’s post I teamed up with the lovely people of SherryLondon to share with you a selection of elegant dresses perfect for Prom or bridesmaids. SherryLondon creates custom made dresses for special occasions at a reasonable price.

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Vintage Jewel Neck Sleeveless Beaded Bodice Prom Dress

First things, first, when looking for the perfect dress for your special day, you need to find some inspiration. You can find plenty of inspiration browsing online, looking through magazines or even watching red carpets events and celebrity style on TV.

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Chiffon Shoulder Strap Prom Dress

I love creating inspiration boards on pinterest, it gives me a good idea of what kind of colors, textures and styles I gravitate to and it makes it so much easier when I’m actually shopping because I now know exactly what I’m looking for.

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Yarn Empire floor length Prom Dress

There are so many beautiful gorgeous dresses on SherryLondon’s website. A great way to narrow down your favorites is to pin the ones you love to your pinterest board and you can even share the board with your family and friends. This can make the shopping process even easier.

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Chiffon Bridesmaids dress

Next, when choosing your perfect dress you want to pay attention to things like body shape, height, accessories and your budget. All these factors are important into making sure you’re choosing the PERFECT dress for you.

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Tulle bridesmaids dress

Lastly take the stress out of the process and enjoy the journey, although this may be a once in a lifetime occasion, remember to make great memories and have fun. The dress is important but it only makes for one part of your special day.

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Kneelength sweetheart bridesmaids dress

Right now SherryLondon are offering up to 60% off their Prom Dresses, head over to their website for more details.

* This is a sponsored post but all opinions expressed in the post are solely my own.