I am my biggest critic. In the past, I have often found myself holding back from doing many a things. Only because I felt that there was always someone out there doing it better. I am also a perfectionist and can be highly competitive. This combination is deadly. I tend to always question things I do, if they are good enough.
If only I had this or that, I would tell myself. This was holding me back. Giving me excuses to put things off and not do them ’till I am completely satisfied with this vision of perfection, I have in my head. Which I plan to accomplish in some distant future.
I have learnt a valuable lesson though. No matter what you do in life, there will always be someone out there who will not like it. There will also be those who will cheer you on and be touched by what you have put out in the universe.
Its like polar opposites, and that is why we have this thing called choices and free will. However, these days people are quick to dismiss any criticism towards them as having “HATERS”. Haters, do exist but unless someone is disrespectful or attacking you personally, always try to put yourself in the person’s shoes and try to understand where they are coming from.
Are they just being “CRABS”? (you know, those who always be trying to pull you back) because they are jealous in your progression or do they really have some kind of constructive criticism they can offer you.
There is a thin line between criticism and feedback. Being told that something that you have put effort in or worked hard on basically SUCKS, stings! But then how can you tell the two apart?
Here are some questions to ask yourself when you are trying to tell the two apart.
1. Is this actually helpful?
2. Can I learn anything from this?
3. Does this help me grow and progress?
4. Were suggestions on how to improve given?
5. If suggestions were given, are they aligned with your goals?
6. Are these people an authority on the subject? Are they more experienced than you are? Do they know what they are talking about?
You also have to consider that just because someone offered you feedback, you don’t necessarily have to agree with it. You are entitled to your opinions. Especially, if you think that the advice being offered does not align with your own personal goals. And that my friend, is totally Okay. Don’t just change or stop doing things because someone said you should.
But if that person is right, then you need to do some soul searching and figure out if you can improve on what you are doing or change the course altogether. After all, that is what personal growth is all about. Learning from our mistakes and becoming the best version of ourselves.
If anything just remember, nobody is perfect in this world. We all have to start somewhere. Otherwise, if you let what others think of you, determine your destiny, then you’ll end up not doing anything worth it.
And with this, I will leave you with a quote.
“No one has ever built a statue to a critic, it’s true. On the other hand, it’s only the people with statues that get pooped on by birds flying by” - Seth Godin
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Have a wonderful week ahead,
Much love and Stay Blessed,