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Who am I? Why am I here?…(DAY 27 ) WHAT IS LOVE? CHALLENGE

I am a child of God Who am I? Why am I here? What Is my PURPOSE? at some point or another, it comes a time when we ask ourselves these questions…and these are extremely important and valid questions to ask yourself…

If you don’t know the answer to these questions, it’s very easy to be swept away by the waves of this world…

If you don’t know who you are, the WORLD will misdirect you and give you a FAKE identity and purpose. If you try to live according to this FAKE identity and STANDARDS of this WORLD, you will always feel lost and purposeless…hitting walls and never really realizing your full potential, never really measuring up, never feeling good enough, always comparing yourself to others and even if you manage to attain all that the world claims will make you happy, you still end up feeling empty and unhappy…

this is because whatever this world tells you, you are..IS A LIE…

it is NOT your true identity….whatever this world tells you, you need…isn’t really what you need…

whatever this world tells you, will make you happy…will NEVER really make you happy…

They say if you don’t stand for something, you stand for NOTHING…

In today’s scripture (Day 27 – “What Is Love?” Challenge) we read about who God says we are…

1 John 3:1-5 (ESV)

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is. And everyone who thus hopes in him purifies himself as he is pure.

Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness.You know that he appeared in order to take away sins, and in him there is no sin.

When Jesus, died for our sins and restored our relationship with God, he made it possible for us to become children of God. We inherited the kingdom and the promise for eternal life. We no longer live for the standards of this world, but for the glory and will of our heavenly father.

When we sin, we become like the prodigal son ( Luke 15:11-32 ) detached from our heavenly father who loves us so much, but once we confess our sins and accept him in our life, all is forgotten and we’re once again welcome to the family.

When you know, your true identity as a child of God, you have confidence and purpose…and if you don’t know your purpose, all you have to do is ask your heavenly father, with time he will reveal it to you. Because God created us all in our mother’s womb and he has plans for each and every one of us, even before we existed (Jeremiah 1:5)…if we are obedient to follow his will for our life, we can live according to his PERFECT PURPOSE for us.

when you know your TRUE IDENTITY…

…you no longer have to live according to the standards of this world, which tell you, you’re not enough unless you have A,B or C…because you know your PURPOSE and WORTH is defined by God…

…you no longer have to go by the “timing” of this world…that you have to have done this or achieved that by a certain time, or a certain age…because God has planned out your life and you go according to his eternal time plan…

…you no longer have to feel bad or worry about being left behind or envious about those who seem to be doing “better” than you…because you know you’re right on track, according to God’s divine plan for your life…

…you no longer have to care about the FALSE IDENTITIES, WORTH and VALUE the world tries to attach to you, because your IDENTITY, WORTH and VALUE comes from GOD…

The only way you can truly know and live out your TRUE IDENTITY is by reading what the bible says about YOU, plus by praying and listening to the guidance and voice of God.

This is how God in his word, answers our questions…P.S: here are just a few scriptures which answer our questions but as you continue to read the bible and pray, you will find a wealth of information on God’s promises for your life and your Identity in him…

Who Am I?

—-I am A CHILD OF GOD (1 John 3:1-5)

and HEIR to his ETERNAL KINGDOM (Romans 8 : 17)

Romans 8:17 (ESV)

17 and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.

Why am I here?

I am here to live according to God’s will, (Ephesians 1 : 11)

Ephesians 1:11 (ESV)

11 In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will,

and to glorify him (Isaiah 43:7)

 Isaiah 43:7 (ESV)

everyone who is called by my name,
    whom I created for my glory,
    whom I formed and made.”

by LOVING Him and LOVING others. (Matthew 22 : 37 -39)

Matthew 22:37-39(ESV)

37 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment. 39 And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.

and what Is my PURPOSE? (Jeremiah 29:11 )

Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)

11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

our purpose is usually, unique to each individual and will be revealed to each and every one of us once we spend time communing with God and listening to him for guidance and wisdom…but usually our PURPOSE is part of a bigger plan as part of the body of CHRIST to advance God’s kingdom…

be blessed dear friend and live according to your TRUE IDENTITY, DESTINY AND PURPOSE as defined by God, our heavenly father.

Love always,

XOXO

Dee

 



The Meaning Of Marriage

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For most people, marriage is a life goal…for most women this takes on a whole other level, since we’re little girls, we’ve been fantasizing, role playing with dolls, dreaming of taking on the role of a wife and mother…

Fairytales like “cinderella”, “beauty and the beast” and “snow white” make us long for the day our prince charming will show up and we’ll ultimately live that fairy tale happily ever after… and when we grow older we continue with this longing through romantic novels, movies and TV, but reality is often very different from our expectations…

We often think about the final destination and forget to think about what it exactly means to be in a marriage…most of us think, marriage should make us happy, that our significant other should meet all our needs, satisfy all our requirements, fulfil the longing and desires we have, make our dreams come true…and that’s a tall order to fill…the reality is selfishness has no place in a marriage…marriage is about two becoming one, mind, body and soul…not each person in the marriage trying to convert the other person into doing what they want them to do…

God intended for marriage to be a ministry, where we learn to be more and more like him…to reflect the love that he has for his bride…

Today, I wanted to share a quote from Paul Washer on, the “Meaning Of Marriage” this is not a popular view of what marriage is…but it is what God intended for it to be…

The Meaning Of Marriage 

“How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage, you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification.”  

- Paul Washer, God’s Glory in Marriage

Ephesians 5:25-33 (NKJV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love Always,

XOXO

Dee

 



There is a COST for LOVE…(Day 26) What Is Love? Challenge

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When we become christians and decide to live a life of submission and LOVE to God there is always a price to pay. We must always decide between choosing a life that is temporarily “fulfilling” or to look at the bigger picture and decide to have an ETERNAL mindset….

In today’s scriptures (Day 26 Of the What Is Love? Challenge) Jesus says, that once we follow him we should expect to be hated by this world just as it hated him…

John 15:14-21  (ESV)

14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. 15 No longer do I call you servants,  for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. 17 These things I command you, so that you will love one another.

18 “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. 19 If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. 20 Remember the word that I said to you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours. 21 But all these things they will do to you on account of my name, because they do not know him who sent me.

There are four main ideas in today’s scriptures, the first one being our relationship with God. Jesus says, we are no longer servants of God/Jesus but friends. This is because there is now transparency in our relationship, servants usually receive orders from their masters and just accept is as it is, without really understanding why. But Jesus became the living word, he restored our relationship with God and gave us wisdom and understanding concerning God’s plan.

Secondly, Jesus specifically chose and appointed us to bear fruit…bearing fruit means we are to conceive that which is filled within us due to his wisdom and love. When we bear fruit, we receive power and authority from God. Because of this whatever we ask in Jesus’ name, as long as it is within God’s WILL, it will be granted to us.

Third, we’re reminded once again TO LOVE EACH OTHER, this is the greatest command. Ultimately it all comes down to this…if we don’t get anything else Jesus has taught us or understand anything about God’s plan, we shall always default to LOVE, that’s what it’s all about.

Last, naturally the world will hate what we stand for, if they hated Jesus to the point of crucifying him, and he was perfect in every single way…then what of us mere humans who are flawed and just trying to follow his footsteps? we can’t chose to follow Jesus and expect the world to love us, because we stand for different things…the world does not know God or respect his word so it won’t understand what we’re about, love us or respect what we stand for. We must always remember we are NOT of this WORLD, we are of GOD, living in this world, which is temporary and fickle, all will pass but he remains the same – TODAY, TOMORROW and FOREVER more…choose your side wisely.

Love always,

XOXO

Dee



Cult Of Celebrity

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Have you heard about the “cult of celebrity”? it’s the obsession and fascination with fame..most people would do anything to gain fame, power, money and influence…why is that? is it because we think fame will give us happiness? Is it because we think fame and money will solve all our problems?

the sad truth is most celebrities are not happy…it’s very common to hear most of these celebrities battling with depression, drug addiction, unhealthy relationships/lifestyles and untimely deaths…you would think with all the talent, fame, money and influence they have, they would be leading lives of contentment….so what gives?

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When we lack a relationship with God, we’ll always try to fill up the void with things from this world…

when our cup of LOVE is empty we’ll always seek it from others…however this world can’t satisfy our thirst or fill up our souls, it can never give us that which only God can…

even after we posses the money, fame, influence and power, if we don’t have the JOY, LOVE and PEACE of God we’ll always feel empty…because it’s all meaningless compared to the eternal glory of God. All this will pass, but his LOVE is eternal…

1 John 2:15-16 (ESV)

15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life —is not from the Father but is from the world.

Matthew 16:26 (ESV)

26 For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?

1 John 2:17 (ESV)

17 And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.

Love Always,

XOXO,

Dee