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The Meaning Of Marriage

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For most people, marriage is a life goal…for most women this takes on a whole other level, since we’re little girls, we’ve been fantasizing, role playing with dolls, dreaming of taking on the role of a wife and mother…

Fairytales like “cinderella”, “beauty and the beast” and “snow white” make us long for the day our prince charming will show up and we’ll ultimately live that fairy tale happily ever after… and when we grow older we continue with this longing through romantic novels, movies and TV, but reality is often very different from our expectations…

We often think about the final destination and forget to think about what it exactly means to be in a marriage…most of us think, marriage should make us happy, that our significant other should meet all our needs, satisfy all our requirements, fulfil the longing and desires we have, make our dreams come true…and that’s a tall order to fill…the reality is selfishness has no place in a marriage…marriage is about two becoming one, mind, body and soul…not each person in the marriage trying to convert the other person into doing what they want them to do…

God intended for marriage to be a ministry, where we learn to be more and more like him…to reflect the love that he has for his bride…

Today, I wanted to share a quote from Paul Washer on, the “Meaning Of Marriage” this is not a popular view of what marriage is…but it is what God intended for it to be…

The Meaning Of Marriage 

“How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage, you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification.”  

- Paul Washer, God’s Glory in Marriage

Ephesians 5:25-33 (NKJV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love Always,

XOXO

Dee

 



Love Is Sacrificial…(Day 25) What Is Love? Challenge

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When most of us think about LOVE, we often think about it in the context of romantic relationships…we think of the emotions that come with “falling in love” with someone. But in today’s scriptures (Day 25 – What Is Love? Challenge),  we learn that God’s definition of Love is SACRIFICE…it’s not a feeling that grows hot or cold based on how other people treat us… love doesn’t cease to exist because our emotions have grown cold…it’s a constant CHOICE we have to make.

John 15:9-13 (ESV)

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. 10 If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. 11 These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.

12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

Naturally, we have a hard time following God’s commandments because it goes against our fleshy sinful nature. But if we LOVE God and want to abide in his LOVE we have to make the conscious choice to keep his commandments, that’s the only way we can find true joy in this world.

Jesus says, we’re to show the same type of love to one another, we have to consciously make the choice to love one another even when we don’t feel like it…this is LOVE.

If you’re a parent or are married, then you know that a lot of times you have to do things that you don’t feel like doing…you have to wake up in the middle of the night to soothe a crying baby, or a sick child while, you had a stressful day, are sick yourself or while you’d rather catch up on sleep.

You have to wake up early in the morning before everyone else and make sure you get everything ready for your family, to start the day…all these actions are those of LOVE…sometimes your children will test your limits because of their defiant behaviour but you CHOSE to continue loving them anyway. Sometimes your spouse will disappoint you and hurt you but you have to chose to continue loving them anyway… LOVE is INTENTIONAL, we chose to love others inspite of their flaws.

When we chose to follow God’s commandments we’re building the muscle of SACRIFICE, OBEDIENCE, SUBMISSION and LOVE, if we can be OBEDIENT to God, if we can SUBMIT to God and LOVE him, then it becomes easier to do the same for others.

Jesus says, the greatest life is laying one’s life for his own friends…this is what Jesus did, he left his Holy throne of Majesty, to take upon a human body, to live like we do, to be tempted like we do, to experience shame, pain and suffering like we do…

Even though Jesus was God and loved humanity deeply and was willing to give up his own life as a sacrifice, he was also human and his human side was weak…he had to fast and pray intensely to overcome his flesh. He asked God if there was any other way he can save humanity without having to “drink from the cup” of suffering but ultimately he surrendered and submitted to God’s will. He chose to be obedient and sacrifice his own life for his “friends”.

Luke 22:42 (ESV)

42 saying, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.”

We may not have to go to this extent to show LOVE for others but we’re still called to “carry ” our cross each day, to cast aside our pride and ego, to overcome our carnal needs and desires, to “die” to ourselves each day, to “crucify” our sinful nature each day and to CHOSE to submit and obey God’s commandments, this is how we LOVE God and others.

Love always,

XOXO,

 Dee



Four things you should be praying for ( Day 16 ) – “What is Love? Challenge”

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It’s Day 16 of the “What Is Love? Challenge“, where for 29 days I’m sharing bible verses on Love so that we can gain a deeper understanding of the true meaning of Love according to God’s divine plan.

On Day 15 we talked about the gift of Spiritual Rebirth, our inheritance and the purpose of pain and suffering.

Today we’ll talk about Four things we should be praying for…

Ephesians 3:14-21 English Standard Version (ESV)

14 For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, 16 that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being,17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, 19 and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

Praying doesn’t always come naturally, sometimes it feels like a routine where you’re simply repeating the same conversation over and over….and sometimes you simply go blank and don’t really know what to say…

On times like this you can always turn to the Word Of God, not only is the bible a guide for how we should live but it’s also filled with prayers…we can use it to learn how to pray and even use the scriptures as our own prayers…

Today we take a look at Paul’s prayer as a template of four things we should be praying for or including in our prayers…

The first thing we learn from Paul is how he prays..he starts praying by bowing his knees as a sign of respect, sincerity and worship to God. He also starts his prayer by acknowledging God, who he is and how great he is…

once he’s done he goes ahead and prays for 4 things:

1. For Inner Strength through the Holy Spirit: Inner Strength is important in our walk with Christ because it’s how we gain our integrity and it helps us keeps focused on our Journey.

2. Next he prays that Christ may dwell in our Hearts through FAITH: As a result of Inner Strength we gain FAITH…and as a result of FAITH we have Christ dwelling in our hearts.

3. He also prays that we’re able to comprehend what is the breadth, length, height and depth and to know the love of Christ that surpasses all understanding: When we have Christ dwelling in our Hearts, we have the privilege of experiencing and understanding just how much Christ Loves us.

4. Lastly he prays that we’re filled with the Fullness of God: Which can only be done once we’re able to comprehend just how much Christ/God loves us…

and at this point Paul ends his prayer with worship and praise to God, who is Able to to do far more than we ask for or comprehend…

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As we can see from Paul’s prayer, in order for us to get the full experience of God working in our lives we need to have Inner Strength through the Holy Spirit, we have to have Christ dwelling in our hearts through Faith, we need to comprehend the Love of Christ that surpasses all understanding and finally to be filled with the fullness of God…

Once we are filled with the fullness of God we’re able to see just how powerful God is in our lives, we’re able to witness his work and hand in our life…and we actually get to see his will for our life…that what he gives us, is not what we want it’s actually what we need and far more abundant than our minds can comprehend or even ask for…AMEN

God Bless you,

XOXO

Dee

 

 

 



Why Prayer and reading the Bible is IMPORTANT (Day 14) – “What Is Love? Challenge”

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Merry Christmas Everyone, I hope you and your loved ones had a peaceful and wonderful day celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ Our Saviour and our Lord.

Today is Day 14 of the “What Is Love?” Challenge where for 29 days, I’ll be sharing bible verses on Love, so we can gain a deeper understanding of the True meaning of Love according to God’s divine plan.

On Day 13 we talked about how God acts as a shield and protects us from our enemies. Today’s verses are another prayer asking God to teach us and instructs us in his ways. Today we’ll discuss why Prayer and reading the bible is so important in our spiritual life and in building our relationship with God.

Psalm 25 : 1 – 10 English Standard Version (ESV)

25 To you, O Lord, I lift up my soul.
O my God, in you I trust;
    let me not be put to shame;
    let not my enemies exult over me.
Indeed, none who wait for you shall be put to shame;
    they shall be ashamed who are wantonly treacherous.

Make me to know your ways, O Lord;
    teach me your paths.
Lead me in your truth and teach me,
    for you are the God of my salvation;
    for you I wait all the day long.

Remember your mercy, O Lord, and your steadfast love,
    for they have been from of old.
Remember not the sins of my youth or my transgressions;
    according to your steadfast love remember me,
    for the sake of your goodness, O Lord!

Good and upright is the Lord;
    therefore he instructs sinners in the way.
He leads the humble in what is right,
    and teaches the humble his way.
10 All the paths of the Lord are steadfast love and faithfulness,
    for those who keep his covenant and his testimonies.

As human beings we are born of sin, this is our nature, we are imperfect and are bound to fall in the trap of sin. After all we are all sinners and have fallen short of the Glory Of God ( Romans 3 :23)

If we want to live a life that’s pleasing to God,  and we want to build a strong relationship with him, we definitely need his help, we need to reach out to him and ask for his guidance and instruction. Because he is the only PERFECT being… he alone is QUALIFIED to be our ultimate teacher.

One way we can do this is through prayer!!! Prayer is the only link we have to God. Through prayer we can ask for his guidance and we can also receive instruction and this is why having a strong and consistent prayer life is so important.

Another way we can receive God’s instruction is through reading the bible. The bible is our manual, it’s God’s word and his instruction on how we should live. Through it we learn a lot about God’s character, his love for us, life lessons and what he wants for our spiritual life and relationship with him.

There are numerous examples in the bible of God providing us with his guidance. This is part of how God shows us that he loves us.

Since the beginning at the garden of Eden, we see God instructing Adam on how he and his wife should live and when Adam and Eve fail, of course there are consequences for their actions but God does not give up on us.

We also see God giving Moses the 10 Commandments, a set of rules on how we should live to please him and to live well with others.

And as if all this wasn’t enough God sends his one and only son Jesus Christ to teach and demonstrate to us how we should live and of course he also gifts us with the Holy Spirit who continues to guide and teach us even after the departure of Jesus Christ.

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Today, let’s focus on thanking God for his instruction and guidance. Let’s ask him to grant us a humble heart that will seek and receive his instruction. AMEN

God Bless you,

XOXO

Dee