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How I found Love Again…(Day 29 – FINAL) What Is Love? Challenge

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So we’ve come to the end of the “What Is Love?” Challenge, Day 29…it’s been a beautiful and wonderful journey, digging deeper into what God says about Love.

I’m going to be a bit transparent today, before starting this challenge I was going though a pretty rough time. I was at the darkest and lowest I had ever been… going through a lot of challenges and deep issues…and I was questioning a lot of what I knew concerning Life and Love…

I had taken a break from my blog, YT channel and Social Media in general and I didn’t think I would ever come back…

A few months before starting this challenge, I had given my life to Jesus… and as I prayed and cried to God for answers…I felt the urge to start this challenge and share it with all of you…

I started this challenge on October 2016 and I’m finally completing it a year later…a lot of things have changed since then…my faith in God has been strengthened…I have seen and tasted the LOVE of God personally, and I know he is REAL, he EXISTS and most importantly, I have personally experienced the POWER and touch of his LOVE in my life…I now know that nothing in this world can separate me from his LOVE and I know that no matter what I go through in this life, he is always there with me…I have found my one true LOVE

1 Corinthians 13:8-13(ESV)

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Today, I just wanted to encourage you by sharing a part of my story and my testimony…

I know most of you may have found me through my videos and blog posts concerning the MHM…and I still receive a lot of questions and inquiries specifically asking if I’m still doing the regimen and for me to give updates e.t.c

Well back in 2015, I started experiencing problems in my marriage. I’d been with this man for 14 years and we had been married for 3 years, our sons were 3 and 6 at the time.

It was during the time MHM was really popular and I just couldn’t handle the demands of keeping up with the content, let alone doing my own hair in the midst of all the problems I was facing…well towards the end of the year, we came to the conclusion that our marriage wasn’t going to work out.

And like most women, when we go through life altering circumstances we cut our hair…so that’s what I did, I big chopped and decided to change my whole look completely…I let my hair and the old me go…I wanted a fresh new start…

When something like that happens, it does take a lot out of you…even though I had known months in advance that the marriage was going to end…and actually, things had been bad for a while and we were just hanging on by the thread…but actually going through the transition was really tough…

I had so many things I had to worry about….I was overwhelmed, heartbroken and I felt like I had lost everything, because all my dreams and hopes were shattered…

Hopes and dreams for myself and most of all the hopes and dreams for my children…

As children, we all dream about eventually having a family but no one ever dreams that their family will be torn apart or broken, no one dreams about becoming a single mother…these things are not really part of our plans until they become our reality…

If you or someone you know are going through a separation or divorce, just know it is a traumatic experience that needs healing…not many people acknowledge this and you’re sometimes just expected to pick up the pieces of your life and move on…but that’s not the reality…I recommend that you watch this video by Dr Miles Munroe on How to Live after Separation and Divorce…a must watch for anyone single, married, separated or divorced.

Other challenges I faced, was the fact that one of my son’s had just been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. And as some of you know, I live in Sweden…so I was essentially in a foreign country, alone, facing all these challenges and just trying to get through each day, healing my own emotional wounds, while raising my kids and trying to find better opportunities for us….

I had hit rock bottom and lost EVERYTHING and I had to start rebuilding my life from scratch, zero, nada…

I went through a lot of emotional, mental and financial challenges….I even fell into depression because I didn’t see how I could overcome all the challenges I was facing…But GOD!!!

Through it all God had been pursuing me, I remember when I and my EX were going through the break up he asked me…”So what are you going to do now?”…and I said, “I’m going to find God”…I didn’t even know what that meant at the time…but I certainly found him…

During the summer of 2016, I surrendered my life to God and said, Lord, I can’t do this on my own, so I want you take control…

Well, God took control alright, but he didn’t wave his magic wand and make everything PERFECT again, but he started healing me slowly…renewing my mind and showing me his LOVE…

I still had a lot of challenges, but I had his LOVE, JOY, PEACE surpassing all understanding and the strength to face all the challenges I was facing…

I came to understand that I had put my faith, hope, trust, love and fear in a man who was flawed and human, instead of relinquishing control in God…God was never a foundation of our marriage and it wasn’t pleasing or glorifying to him…

Well today, I thank God because he is a God of second chances…I survived one of the biggest blows in my life, my children are happy and healthy. My son who was diagnosed with Autism is doing pretty good compared to how he was a few years back…which is a miracle in itself…and I see God continuing to work on him each day…

Sometimes God’s solutions take time, he doesn’t give us quick fixes to our problems or grant us the requests for our prayers immediately….

but he wants you to go through a process in the wilderness, desert, valley…where you will learn to lean and trust him completely…and by the time God is done with you, you become a force to be reckoned with…because you will know God personally, you will have such an intimate relationship with him and your faith will not waver…

I don’t have everything I want, but I have God and he is enough for me. I know he knows exactly what I and my children need and he gives abundantly according to his will…

God is opening new doors and opportunities for me even as I speak/write this, surpassing what I could even imagine or could of asked him for…

He has worked miracles and I have found favor in places I never could on my own…there’s no other explanation but God…

when you see my posts online and see how passionate I am for God, it’s not because I’m righteous, or perfect or got it all together…

but it’s because my God rescued me, forgave me, healed me, provided for me, loved me and my children, he was there…when nobody else was…

Thank God we do not look like what we went through…because Lord knows I’ve been through it…and when people hear bits and pieces of my story they always say, “you’re sooo strong!!!”

well I just want to say, I’m just a regular person, there’s nothing special about me, I’m not any stronger or better than anyone else….but I know a big God, who created this universe and that’s where my strength and joy comes from…and I thank him every single day for what he has done in my life and my children’s lives…and what he is yet to do…

I know this was a long post, but I just wanted to share, so that my pain, my experiences, may not be in vain, but that they may encourage someone else…

Whatever you may be going through today, just know God loves you so much, you have no idea!!! and he wants you back…there’s nothing too hard for him…give your life to him and you’ll never regret it…EVER!!!

…and this is the story of how, I found LOVE again…

Love always,

XOXO,

Dee

 



The Meaning Of Marriage

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For most people, marriage is a life goal…for most women this takes on a whole other level, since we’re little girls, we’ve been fantasizing, role playing with dolls, dreaming of taking on the role of a wife and mother…

Fairytales like “cinderella”, “beauty and the beast” and “snow white” make us long for the day our prince charming will show up and we’ll ultimately live that fairy tale happily ever after… and when we grow older we continue with this longing through romantic novels, movies and TV, but reality is often very different from our expectations…

We often think about the final destination and forget to think about what it exactly means to be in a marriage…most of us think, marriage should make us happy, that our significant other should meet all our needs, satisfy all our requirements, fulfil the longing and desires we have, make our dreams come true…and that’s a tall order to fill…the reality is selfishness has no place in a marriage…marriage is about two becoming one, mind, body and soul…not each person in the marriage trying to convert the other person into doing what they want them to do…

God intended for marriage to be a ministry, where we learn to be more and more like him…to reflect the love that he has for his bride…

Today, I wanted to share a quote from Paul Washer on, the “Meaning Of Marriage” this is not a popular view of what marriage is…but it is what God intended for it to be…

The Meaning Of Marriage 

“How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage, you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification.”  

- Paul Washer, God’s Glory in Marriage

Ephesians 5:25-33 (NKJV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love Always,

XOXO

Dee

 



5 Love Languages | Book Review

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Today I’d like to share my thoughts on a book I just got done reading, ” The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Dr. Gary Chapman.

This is actually a pretty popular book and I’d seen and heard a lot about it and it’s been on my reading queue for a while now… It’s the first book I’ve read this year so I am really excited to share with you guys, my thoughts and review on the book overall.

So first I wanted to say that I was reading this book on my phone on the kindle (not sponsored) and I was reading it on my way to work and on my way back home on the train. My whole journey from home to work is about 35 minutes, so back and forth it’s about an hour. I started reading this book on a Monday and I was done by Thursday. So it was a pretty quick read, really straight forward, and it’s really enjoyable, so I really appreciated that about the book.

The premise of the book is that each one of us has a primary love language. And a love language is basically how we express or receive love.

There are 5 main love languages and these are Words of Affirmation, Acts Of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. The author says that, when we enter into a relationship, there’s a window where we’re really driven by our emotions and our hormones and we’re really on a LOVE HIGH. During this time which on average is usually 2 years, we really can’t see the flaws of the other person, we just love them “unconditionally”, we can’t see no wrong in anything that they do and that’s why they say LOVE IS BLIND but after the end of this time, we’re brought down to reality.

After this time if you want to sustain your relationship, LOVE becomes a CHOICE. The two people in the relationship have to CHOSE to love each other UNCONDITIONALLY, they have to go out of their way to communicate and show each other that they love each other unconditionally.

What usually happens is, most people get married during the love high. Once the love high period ends, if the couple does not chose to unconditionally love each other, the relationship may end.

Each and everyone of us has a Love Language, for you to show your significant other that you love them, you have to express love, in their Love Language and for your significant other to feel loved, they have to receive love in their Love Language.

Most people don’t usually know each other’s Love Language, resulting in miscommunication and because of this, each person in the relationship ends up feeling unloved. All of us have an emotional love tank, and when people give us love based on our love language, then our emotional love tank becomes full, and then we’re able to express and receive love more easily.

If we do not receive love based on our Love Language, our emotional love tank gets depleted. Once its depleted we start feeling angry, resentful and hateful. During this time, you become very vulnerable and if another person comes along and you end up falling in love with them/ you end up experiencing the love high/ they speak your love language, then your current relationship may be in danger, because at this point you’re vulnerable and most likely to find love elsewhere because, you’re emotional love tank is depleted and you’re “starved” for love in a sense.

The Love Languages:

1. Words of Affirmation

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for this person it is really important that you tell them that you love them, tell them the reason why you love them, constantly encourage them, speak life to them, tell them positive words, express your feelings and tell them why you’re grateful for them. For this person doing these things would fill up their emotional love tank. On the opposite of this, being negative, being sarcastic, being judgmental, being dismissive, being critical would deplete their emotional love tank and make them feel really unloved by you.

2. Acts of Service

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For this person they want you to do something for them to feel loved. It could be cooking for them, washing dishes, laundry, it could be doing chores around the house or outside the home, it could be running errands. Whatever it may be, the fact that you took time to do something for them communicates to them that you love them. The opposite of that would be being too busy or just doing other things and not really taking the time to help them…maybe you’re always on the computer or watching TV or always busy but never really help them with anything. That would make them feel unloved and eventually, deplete their love tank.

3. Receiving Gifts:

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This doesn’t necessarily mean that this person is materialistic, but what it means is that for them to feel loved they need something meaningful and tangible. For this person, special occasions, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, relationship anniversaries, dating anniversaries, or giving them a gift for any reason is really important to them. It shows them that you went out of your way and you thought about them and you put in the effort, the time and money to get them something. It doesn’t necessarily have to be expensive but it has to have meaning to them. So constantly listening to what they want, like if they say… “I would really love to have this thing, or to go this place…” surprising them with what they hoped and wished for would really mean a lot to this person and would make them feel loved. The opposite of that would be forgetting their birthday, missing special occasions like valentine’s day, missing Christmas would really communicate to them that you don’t love them. Also going really long periods of time without giving them anything. That would communicate to them that you don’t really care and would deplete their emotional love tank.

4. Quality Time:

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For this person giving them your undivided attention is really important to them. When you’re with them don’t be on the phone simultaneously, don’t be surfing the net simultaneously, don’t be on social media or don’t be watching TV but give them your undivided attention. Take some time out of your time to really spend time with them, really listen to what they’re communicating to you and really give them yourself, that’s how they feel loved. For this person not responding to their text messages, not calling them on a regular basis, not spending time with them on a regular basis would really communicate to them that you really don’t care about them and will deplete their emotional love tank.

5.Physical Touch:

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to this person constantly touching them, holding them, hugging them, kissing them, holding hands, caressing them, touching them in a loving way really communicates to them that you care for them and you love them, if you go long periods of time without being physical with them, they would feel really neglected and abandoned.

These love languages can be applied to all sorts of relationships and are not only reserved to love relationships but can also apply to children, friends, co workers and all sorts of relationships.

Overall I thought it was really helpful and I could really see how this could help make a relationship stronger. The thing with these Love Languages, is both people in the relationship have to commit and be on the same page that, you’ll both go out of your way to show each other that you care by speaking each other’s Love Language.

It’s not a way to manipulate someone into loving you, each person has to make that choice…”because I love this person, I will speak their love language and that’s how I show them that I care and I love them”. This is not a way to blackmail people and tell them, if you loved me, you’d do this and that for me…that wouldn’t work either.

My only concern with this premise and it’s something that wasn’t addressed in the book so I’m not really familiar with how this would play out in a real life situation. The author did not talk about abusive relationships, toxic relationships and people who are in relationships with people with mental illnesses for instance Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder and Psychopathic Personality Disorder.

These type of people lack a conscious and empathy, they can not put themselves in other people’s shoes, they are manipulative and use people as tools for their own agendas. They are incapable of loving others unconditionally in that sense… so I’m not quite sure how this process would work in such a situation.

If you are in an unhealthy relationship I would not recommend just applying these blindly into your relationship but I would advise you to seek counseling and help to get through your toxic relationship.

In the book the author does talk about a woman, as he describes her relationship, in my opinion, it felt like an abusive relationship and according to the author it did work out for the wife and her husband. I do not know the specific details of their relationship but the Author used the bible verse, Luke 6:27-38 to support his advice to the woman

Luke 6:27-38

27 “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. 29 To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic[a] either. 30 Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. 31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

32 “If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount. 35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. 36 Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.

37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; 38 give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”

Basically what I get from these verses is that we are to love unconditionally, if you chose to love unconditionally you just love but you can’t really force the other person to love you back. How the other person responds is ultimately their choice.

Honestly, I really do not condone just staying in toxic and unhealthy relationships…I really think that if you are in that situation you should proceed with a professional, especially one who has experience dealing with such relationships. This would be to get you the help you need, for your own well being.

If you’re interested in finding out your own Love Language, one way mentioned in the book is to pay attention how you express love to others because that is most likely how you want to receive love or you can simply take a quiz at http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Stay Blessed,

XOXO

Dee

 

 

 

 



Jay Alvarrez, Alexis Ren…and Relationship Goals?

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Unless you’ve been living under a rock lately, like I have :) …you probably know who Jay Alvarrez and Alexis Ren are…if you don’t, let me fill you in real quick…

Jay Alvarrez (20 yrs) and Alexis Ren (19 yrs) are an instagram couple who are both models and who currently have up to 10 million followers combined on their individual and couple instagram accounts. Their popularity is due to the couple sharing VERY intimate images of their relationship and lifestyle on instagram…young people around the world look up to them as an example of what a “great” relationship/ “LOVE” should look like aka “Relationship Goals”…

Cosmopolitan online did an interview with them back in June. I wanted to share a little snippet of the interview, because it has been stuck on my mind for the past few days…I bolded the parts that inspired me to write this post….

On whether or not they’ll get married…

Jay: Honestly, our, our goals are financial right now. We’re trying to buy a house in Hawaii, and I want to get a house on the beach.

Alexis: That’s taking the next step for us, is having a home with each other.

Jay: We’re very different in that way. At this point in my life, “I don’t believe in marriage.” Maybe I will in the future, but “I think marriage comes from a lot of insecurity. You worry about that person being with anyone but you and you need to lock them down.”

Alexis: We’re in this new generation where “we don’t need a piece of paper to represent how much we love each other.”

Jay: Yeah. “This is the new revolution. Marriage is making less and less sense now than ever. If love can outshine a marriage,” then our next step is just doing bigger and better things together, and learning more about each other and our strengths together.

In the article it was mentioned that Jay (20yrs) and Alvarez (19yrs) both lost their mothers and their fathers are not actively present in their lives because they are “Doing their own thing….”

A few days ago cosmopolitan posted an article stating the couple may have broken up recently…

DISCLAIMER:

Before I share my thoughts on this whole thing, I just want to say that I am not judging them or anyone else for this matter who shares their views…

I was once their age, believed some of the same things and made some mistakes…

I’m sharing my thoughts in hopes this will bless someone else because I wish I knew some of these things when I was younger.

I am a Christian and therefore my views support God’s PURPOSE for Marriage and Sex….so here we go :)

Just like many young girls, growing up the only standard and examples of what a relationship, dating and marriage looked like were from the media…music videos, movies, Television Shows, magazines, Novels e.t.c.

I had such a warped view of what one should look for in a lifelong marriage partner or what should and shouldn’t be acceptable in a relationship. What TRUE LOVE is, The real purpose of Marriage and Sex…e.t.c

As young girls most of us were told Sex outside of marriage is wrong…because of the consequences…unwanted pregnancies, STD’s, AIDS, labels, reputation etc

Speaking for myself the biblical reasons were never explained other than GOD hates fornication and you will go to hell…

Times have changed quite a bit since I was a teenager/young adult, today Sex has become pervasive…it’s hard to listen to music, watch TV, browse the internet or walk down the street without seeing images that glorify LUST, that glorify relationships filled with drama, that glorify men having multiple partners, that glorify cheating, that glorify side chicks, that glorify women “advertising their body assets.”, that glorify dead end relationships that lead to nowhere…all in the name of YOLO…life’s too short and You Only Live Once…

Most people especially young people don’t have the guidance or positive influence to guide them the right way so they just feed on the garbage that’s been shoved down their throats until it leads to serious consequences in their lives…

it has become normalized within our society to the point where people don’t think that pure wholesome Godly relationships/marriages actually exist and so they settle for the garbage… it’s as if the World’s way IS the only way…

1 Corinthians 6 : 19 – 20 (NIV)

19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

Marriage (Holy Matrimony) is a Sacred Institution and the MOST IMPORTANT institution created by God, it symbolizes Christ’s love for the Church and the church’s submission to the Lord. It is a Covenant/Vow and a commitment between a man and woman before God.

Ephesians 5 : 25 – 31 (NIV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

If a man doesn’t love, respect, honor and fear GOD..if he doesn’t have the love of God within him and doesn’t love himself he has no ability to love a woman/a wife, for he doesn’t even love himself …he abuses himself/his own body through sin of the flesh such as alcohol, drugs, sex, and idolatry etc.

If a man doesn’t even understand God’s Blueprint for Love & Marriage…. “Christ’s love for the church and how Christ gave himself up for the church to make her holy…” How can he SACRIFICE, make that type of commitment and demonstrate that type of love to a woman/ a wife?

For this reason, the devil today is fiercely attacking God’s most sacred institution i.e Marriage and feeding us LIES as to what marriage really means…and giving us his version of Sex and marriage, making a MOCKERY out of God’s Sacred Institution.

As women our role is to have discernment… are we willing to trust a blind man to lead us? Submitting and entrusting our life/heart, body and future children/generations to a man who is not led by God?

Psalm 127:1

Unless the Lord builds the house,
    the builders labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
    the guards stand watch in vain.

How can you be at peace knowing that a blind man is leading you… amidst the warfare and attacks made by Satan and his fallen angels?

Matthew 15 : 14

14 Leave them; they are blind guides. If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”

Satan knows the role of men and their significance to the family and generations to come, because marriage is an important assignment from God. This is why men are viciously attacked.

Satan also knows the value and role a virtuous woman can play as this man’s rib in his life and that is why the attack on a woman’s destiny, self-esteem, fruits and gifts is so great.

Genesis 2 : 19 – 24

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky.He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found.

21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

The Hebrew word for woman is ISHSHAH which means: woman, WIFE, female

Therefore, a Woman was created by God to be a man’s wife and not to be his “partner”, one night stand, eternal girlfriend, side chick, other woman or girlfriend for a season…

Song of Songs 8 : 4 (NIV)

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you:
    Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.

If a man does not pursue God in his life and is not following God’s plan for his life he shouldn’t be pursuing a woman…

If a man decides to go out of God’s plan and decides to follow the worldly rules for dating he shall not expect sex from a woman….if he does…he is a THIEF…

He is STEALING from a woman that which is the most precious to her, that which God has set aside for her husband. And that should only be shared with her husband, the man she was created and adapted uniquely for by God.

When a man pursues a woman for the sole purpose of sex, it shows that he is solely satisfying his sexual needs and lustful desires and not honoring God and his daughters.

If he does receive sex he shall also be ready to bear the consequences and responsibilities that come with the “shame” and sinful nature of sex outside Marriage.

Hebrews 13 : 4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

 

Sex was created by God to be enjoyed WITHIN a marriage put together by God to further his kingdom and bearing fruit of children.

Genesis 9: 7

7 “As for you, be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth and increase upon it.”

 

If a man does not want marriage or a family he shall not engage in sex for he is going against God’s wishes and desires for MAN. God saw that it was not suitable for man to be alone in this world and therefore he should have a partner, a helpmeet made suitable for him…note: A helpmeet..meaning ONE woman not multiple helpmeets…many women!!!

Genesis 2 :18 (NIV)

18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

But due to the sinful nature of  man, life is tough for man… for God cursed the soil…

Genesis 3 : 17 (NIV)

17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’

“Cursed is the ground because of you;
    through painful toil you will eat food from it
    all the days of your life.

And Satan understands this, and so he tempts men with Money, Power, Sex and the things of this world that are fleeting…

Proverbs 23 : 4 – 5

Do not wear yourself out to get rich;
    do not trust your own cleverness.
Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone,
    for they will surely sprout wings
    and fly off to the sky like an eagle

A real man understands that he can NOT toil the ground alone…he needs to submit himself before God for strength and wisdom.

Proverbs 2 : 6 – 8 (NIV)

For the Lord gives wisdom;
    from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.
He holds success in store for the upright,
    he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless,
for he guards the course of the just
    and protects the way of his faithful ones.

If a man is not committed and submitted to GOD, his own creator?!?! how can he commit to a woman/ a wife and the family?

“The greatest measure of a man’s character is the relationship he has with God his creator.”

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In today’s world everyone is trying to be the masters of their own lives, instead of surrendering to GOD….

…and because of this Satan is having a field day…

When men and women do not practice purity, self-control, obedience, respect and submission to God, to his words, to his commandments and do not honor their bodies, given and created by God, temples of the Holy Spirit…it becomes very hard for them to honor, love and respect each other in relationships and marriage. And if God did not bless the relationship he can not bless the Union/Marriage…

2 Timothy 2 : 22

22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

no wonder families are broken, divorces are at an all time high and then we go around saying SEE this is why Love doesn’t exist, marriages don’t work…we end up treating the disease, with what caused it in the first place…instead of looking at the real reasons…the lack of proper Godly examples and guidance in most people’s lives.

 2 Corinthians 4 : 4

The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.

Happy Sunday & Be Blessed

XOXO Dee