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The Meaning Of Marriage

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For most people, marriage is a life goal…for most women this takes on a whole other level, since we’re little girls, we’ve been fantasizing, role playing with dolls, dreaming of taking on the role of a wife and mother…

Fairytales like “cinderella”, “beauty and the beast” and “snow white” make us long for the day our prince charming will show up and we’ll ultimately live that fairy tale happily ever after… and when we grow older we continue with this longing through romantic novels, movies and TV, but reality is often very different from our expectations…

We often think about the final destination and forget to think about what it exactly means to be in a marriage…most of us think, marriage should make us happy, that our significant other should meet all our needs, satisfy all our requirements, fulfil the longing and desires we have, make our dreams come true…and that’s a tall order to fill…the reality is selfishness has no place in a marriage…marriage is about two becoming one, mind, body and soul…not each person in the marriage trying to convert the other person into doing what they want them to do…

God intended for marriage to be a ministry, where we learn to be more and more like him…to reflect the love that he has for his bride…

Today, I wanted to share a quote from Paul Washer on, the “Meaning Of Marriage” this is not a popular view of what marriage is…but it is what God intended for it to be…

The Meaning Of Marriage 

“How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage, you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification.”  

- Paul Washer, God’s Glory in Marriage

Ephesians 5:25-33 (NKJV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love Always,

XOXO

Dee

 



There is a COST for LOVE…(Day 26) What Is Love? Challenge

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When we become christians and decide to live a life of submission and LOVE to God there is always a price to pay. We must always decide between choosing a life that is temporarily “fulfilling” or to look at the bigger picture and decide to have an ETERNAL mindset….

In today’s scriptures (Day 26 Of the What Is Love? Challenge) Jesus says, that once we follow him we should expect to be hated by this world just as it hated him…

John 15:14-21  (ESV)

14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. 15 No longer do I call you servants,  for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. 17 These things I command you, so that you will love one another.

18 “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. 19 If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. 20 Remember the word that I said to you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours. 21 But all these things they will do to you on account of my name, because they do not know him who sent me.

There are four main ideas in today’s scriptures, the first one being our relationship with God. Jesus says, we are no longer servants of God/Jesus but friends. This is because there is now transparency in our relationship, servants usually receive orders from their masters and just accept is as it is, without really understanding why. But Jesus became the living word, he restored our relationship with God and gave us wisdom and understanding concerning God’s plan.

Secondly, Jesus specifically chose and appointed us to bear fruit…bearing fruit means we are to conceive that which is filled within us due to his wisdom and love. When we bear fruit, we receive power and authority from God. Because of this whatever we ask in Jesus’ name, as long as it is within God’s WILL, it will be granted to us.

Third, we’re reminded once again TO LOVE EACH OTHER, this is the greatest command. Ultimately it all comes down to this…if we don’t get anything else Jesus has taught us or understand anything about God’s plan, we shall always default to LOVE, that’s what it’s all about.

Last, naturally the world will hate what we stand for, if they hated Jesus to the point of crucifying him, and he was perfect in every single way…then what of us mere humans who are flawed and just trying to follow his footsteps? we can’t chose to follow Jesus and expect the world to love us, because we stand for different things…the world does not know God or respect his word so it won’t understand what we’re about, love us or respect what we stand for. We must always remember we are NOT of this WORLD, we are of GOD, living in this world, which is temporary and fickle, all will pass but he remains the same – TODAY, TOMORROW and FOREVER more…choose your side wisely.

Love always,

XOXO

Dee



It is not human strength or power that accomplishes His will

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As human beings we sometimes feel invincible, we take for granted the abilities, talents, power, strength, personalities, physical characteristics and everything that we have. We feel as though, we acquired these things ourselves.

We think we’re the boss of us and of this universe and we conveniently overlook the power of God that works through us…

We must always remember, that all that we are and all that we have, is not a product of our own doing, but a gift from an almighty God, who through his spirit gives us the power to accomplish his will…

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Zechariah 4:6 (NIV)

So he said to me, “This is the word of the Lord to Zerubbabel: ‘Not by might nor by power,but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord Almighty.

Love Always,

XOXO,

Dee

 



Love binds everything together…(Day 23) What Is Love? Challenge

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Unity cannot exist where there is no LOVE, no matter how different we are, no matter what our background is, what life experiences we’ve gone through, where we come from, the color of our skin or how much money or success we have, there is only one thing that can unite us all and that is LOVE. At the end of the day we all seek LOVE, we seek to LOVE and to be LOVED and this is evident in our pursuits of the things of this world…the underlying need that we’re really trying to fulfill is the need for LOVE

Today’s scriptures, (Day 23) of the What Is Love? challenge, tell us once again how to live as followers of christ, but most importantly we’re told we should “put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony”

Colossians 3:8-15 (ESV)

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. 11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.

12 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.

Most times this world will try to blur out, what is right and what is wrong. Because of this, we’re led to believe that we lead pretty Ok lives. The media loves to sensationalize things and highlight the most dramatic things that take place in the world. Of course they do this because that’s how they attract viewership and ratings. However, you can not base your life according to what you see in the world, if you do, you may end up convincing yourself that compared to what is going on out there, I’m doing pretty ok, I’m a decent person, you know at least I haven’t done that….

However, as christians we can’t base our life on the standards of this world, our standards are kingdom standards, the bible is very clear on what is right and what is wrong,

In today’s scriptures we’re told specifically to get rid of:

  • ANGER
  • WRATH
  • MALICE
  • SLANDER
  • OBSCENE TALK
  • LIES

As followers of christ we have to get rid of our old selves and put on a new self, one that is being renewed in knowledge, the ultimate goal is to be more like the image of our creator. As christians we are all one and we’re all connected together in unity by his LOVE.

As new people we’re supposed to exude the following characteristics:

  • COMPASSIONATE HEARTS
  • KINDNESS
  • HUMILITY
  • MEEKNESS
  • PATIENCE
  • FORGIVENESS

Above everything that we’re called to be, the most important is LOVE!!! Love brings everything together in perfect HARMONY and where there is LOVE there is PEACE. Let our lives and hearts be ruled by PEACE. Not forgetting to be thankful and remain content about everything and in every season of our lives.

Love Always,

XOXO

Dee