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Who am I? Why am I here?…(DAY 27 ) WHAT IS LOVE? CHALLENGE

I am a child of God Who am I? Why am I here? What Is my PURPOSE? at some point or another, it comes a time when we ask ourselves these questions…and these are extremely important and valid questions to ask yourself…

If you don’t know the answer to these questions, it’s very easy to be swept away by the waves of this world…

If you don’t know who you are, the WORLD will misdirect you and give you a FAKE identity and purpose. If you try to live according to this FAKE identity and STANDARDS of this WORLD, you will always feel lost and purposeless…hitting walls and never really realizing your full potential, never really measuring up, never feeling good enough, always comparing yourself to others and even if you manage to attain all that the world claims will make you happy, you still end up feeling empty and unhappy…

this is because whatever this world tells you, you are..IS A LIE…

it is NOT your true identity….whatever this world tells you, you need…isn’t really what you need…

whatever this world tells you, will make you happy…will NEVER really make you happy…

They say if you don’t stand for something, you stand for NOTHING…

In today’s scripture (Day 27 – “What Is Love?” Challenge) we read about who God says we are…

1 John 3:1-5 (ESV)

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is. And everyone who thus hopes in him purifies himself as he is pure.

Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness.You know that he appeared in order to take away sins, and in him there is no sin.

When Jesus, died for our sins and restored our relationship with God, he made it possible for us to become children of God. We inherited the kingdom and the promise for eternal life. We no longer live for the standards of this world, but for the glory and will of our heavenly father.

When we sin, we become like the prodigal son ( Luke 15:11-32 ) detached from our heavenly father who loves us so much, but once we confess our sins and accept him in our life, all is forgotten and we’re once again welcome to the family.

When you know, your true identity as a child of God, you have confidence and purpose…and if you don’t know your purpose, all you have to do is ask your heavenly father, with time he will reveal it to you. Because God created us all in our mother’s womb and he has plans for each and every one of us, even before we existed (Jeremiah 1:5)…if we are obedient to follow his will for our life, we can live according to his PERFECT PURPOSE for us.

when you know your TRUE IDENTITY…

…you no longer have to live according to the standards of this world, which tell you, you’re not enough unless you have A,B or C…because you know your PURPOSE and WORTH is defined by God…

…you no longer have to go by the “timing” of this world…that you have to have done this or achieved that by a certain time, or a certain age…because God has planned out your life and you go according to his eternal time plan…

…you no longer have to feel bad or worry about being left behind or envious about those who seem to be doing “better” than you…because you know you’re right on track, according to God’s divine plan for your life…

…you no longer have to care about the FALSE IDENTITIES, WORTH and VALUE the world tries to attach to you, because your IDENTITY, WORTH and VALUE comes from GOD…

The only way you can truly know and live out your TRUE IDENTITY is by reading what the bible says about YOU, plus by praying and listening to the guidance and voice of God.

This is how God in his word, answers our questions…P.S: here are just a few scriptures which answer our questions but as you continue to read the bible and pray, you will find a wealth of information on God’s promises for your life and your Identity in him…

Who Am I?

—-I am A CHILD OF GOD (1 John 3:1-5)

and HEIR to his ETERNAL KINGDOM (Romans 8 : 17)

Romans 8:17 (ESV)

17 and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.

Why am I here?

I am here to live according to God’s will, (Ephesians 1 : 11)

Ephesians 1:11 (ESV)

11 In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will,

and to glorify him (Isaiah 43:7)

 Isaiah 43:7 (ESV)

everyone who is called by my name,
    whom I created for my glory,
    whom I formed and made.”

by LOVING Him and LOVING others. (Matthew 22 : 37 -39)

Matthew 22:37-39(ESV)

37 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment. 39 And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.

and what Is my PURPOSE? (Jeremiah 29:11 )

Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)

11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

our purpose is usually, unique to each individual and will be revealed to each and every one of us once we spend time communing with God and listening to him for guidance and wisdom…but usually our PURPOSE is part of a bigger plan as part of the body of CHRIST to advance God’s kingdom…

be blessed dear friend and live according to your TRUE IDENTITY, DESTINY AND PURPOSE as defined by God, our heavenly father.

Love always,

XOXO

Dee

 



The Meaning Of Marriage

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For most people, marriage is a life goal…for most women this takes on a whole other level, since we’re little girls, we’ve been fantasizing, role playing with dolls, dreaming of taking on the role of a wife and mother…

Fairytales like “cinderella”, “beauty and the beast” and “snow white” make us long for the day our prince charming will show up and we’ll ultimately live that fairy tale happily ever after… and when we grow older we continue with this longing through romantic novels, movies and TV, but reality is often very different from our expectations…

We often think about the final destination and forget to think about what it exactly means to be in a marriage…most of us think, marriage should make us happy, that our significant other should meet all our needs, satisfy all our requirements, fulfil the longing and desires we have, make our dreams come true…and that’s a tall order to fill…the reality is selfishness has no place in a marriage…marriage is about two becoming one, mind, body and soul…not each person in the marriage trying to convert the other person into doing what they want them to do…

God intended for marriage to be a ministry, where we learn to be more and more like him…to reflect the love that he has for his bride…

Today, I wanted to share a quote from Paul Washer on, the “Meaning Of Marriage” this is not a popular view of what marriage is…but it is what God intended for it to be…

The Meaning Of Marriage 

“How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage, you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification.”  

- Paul Washer, God’s Glory in Marriage

Ephesians 5:25-33 (NKJV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love Always,

XOXO

Dee

 



Love Is Sacrificial…(Day 25) What Is Love? Challenge

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When most of us think about LOVE, we often think about it in the context of romantic relationships…we think of the emotions that come with “falling in love” with someone. But in today’s scriptures (Day 25 – What Is Love? Challenge),  we learn that God’s definition of Love is SACRIFICE…it’s not a feeling that grows hot or cold based on how other people treat us… love doesn’t cease to exist because our emotions have grown cold…it’s a constant CHOICE we have to make.

John 15:9-13 (ESV)

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. 10 If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. 11 These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.

12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

Naturally, we have a hard time following God’s commandments because it goes against our fleshy sinful nature. But if we LOVE God and want to abide in his LOVE we have to make the conscious choice to keep his commandments, that’s the only way we can find true joy in this world.

Jesus says, we’re to show the same type of love to one another, we have to consciously make the choice to love one another even when we don’t feel like it…this is LOVE.

If you’re a parent or are married, then you know that a lot of times you have to do things that you don’t feel like doing…you have to wake up in the middle of the night to soothe a crying baby, or a sick child while, you had a stressful day, are sick yourself or while you’d rather catch up on sleep.

You have to wake up early in the morning before everyone else and make sure you get everything ready for your family, to start the day…all these actions are those of LOVE…sometimes your children will test your limits because of their defiant behaviour but you CHOSE to continue loving them anyway. Sometimes your spouse will disappoint you and hurt you but you have to chose to continue loving them anyway… LOVE is INTENTIONAL, we chose to love others inspite of their flaws.

When we chose to follow God’s commandments we’re building the muscle of SACRIFICE, OBEDIENCE, SUBMISSION and LOVE, if we can be OBEDIENT to God, if we can SUBMIT to God and LOVE him, then it becomes easier to do the same for others.

Jesus says, the greatest life is laying one’s life for his own friends…this is what Jesus did, he left his Holy throne of Majesty, to take upon a human body, to live like we do, to be tempted like we do, to experience shame, pain and suffering like we do…

Even though Jesus was God and loved humanity deeply and was willing to give up his own life as a sacrifice, he was also human and his human side was weak…he had to fast and pray intensely to overcome his flesh. He asked God if there was any other way he can save humanity without having to “drink from the cup” of suffering but ultimately he surrendered and submitted to God’s will. He chose to be obedient and sacrifice his own life for his “friends”.

Luke 22:42 (ESV)

42 saying, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.”

We may not have to go to this extent to show LOVE for others but we’re still called to “carry ” our cross each day, to cast aside our pride and ego, to overcome our carnal needs and desires, to “die” to ourselves each day, to “crucify” our sinful nature each day and to CHOSE to submit and obey God’s commandments, this is how we LOVE God and others.

Love always,

XOXO,

 Dee



Fruit Of The Spirit – (Day 18) – “What Is Love?” Challenge

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It’s Day 18 of the “What Is Love? Challenge“, where for 29 days I’m sharing bible verses on Love so that we can gain a deeper understanding of the true meaning of Love according to God’s divine plan.

On Day 17 we talked about the only thing that counts in our relationship with God and today we’ll discuss the Fruit Of the Spirit.

Galatians 5:22-26 English Standard Version (ESV)

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

The other day I had a conversation with a co-worker concerning Love and Marriage. She was telling me how her parents had such a beautiful marriage, almost 60 years of marriage…

You could hear the admiration she had for their love and that’s obviously what she wants and hopes for herself…but she admitted that it’s something very rare these days and almost unattainable.

She then proceeded to tell me that her mother told her that the reason marriages don’t last these days is because people no longer have that Selfless Love…

People have become very selfish and most of us can’t just love without expecting something in return…and if the other person fails to return the favor or reach our expectations we simply bail out….

Most of us live by our egos, the ego says we are entitled to receive things from others while the spirit says, “I don’t deserve anything, but through, God’s grace and mercy, I receive these gifts.”

crucify fleshly desires

When we are of Christ, we crucify our ego, our flesh, our passions and desires and are reborn. We are filled with God’s spirit and start to produce his fruit. The fruit of the Spirit is evidence of the presence of God in our life and our relationship with him.

Attempting to truly Love, have Joy, be Peaceful, Patient, Kind, Good, Faithful, Gentle and have Self-Control without the presence of God in our life or without having a relationship with God is a big and constant STRUGGLE… it’s much easier and natural to submit to our Flesh, our own desires/passions and ego…

When we try to live according to the “law”/a moral code using our own strength, we are simply living for our own satisfaction, boosting our own egos…

But if we surrender/ submit to God and allow his Spirit to work within us, by his grace and through Faith we’re able to effortlessly produce Fruit of the Spirit.

When we bear the Fruit Of Spirit, we glorify God and it becomes evident in our relationships with others.

Today, let’s thank God for the gift of the Spirit and his Fruit and acknowledge that we can’t walk by the Spirit on our own strength but that we need him to help us crucify our egos, flesh, desires and passions. Let us ask him to help us live a life that glorifies him through the Fruit of his Spirit. Amen

God Bless you,

XOXO

Dee